So I asked for calmness and it looks like it might be on its way.
To start with I am feeling calmer as it is already as I am more aware of my wish to be calmer.
Secondly, I have decided to go ahead with therapy so hopefully that will have an effect on my well-being.
Finally, I was told by a friend that there is a convent not far away from here where you can go on retreats. I have checked it out and have emailed with some questions, so hopefully I will be on my way soon.